I clearly remember that day, it dawned on me to ask the most obvious question, "Why did my adoptive family make that decision to adopt me?” What was the real reason?" Then those painful feelings, from my foster and adoptive years, began to paralyze me once again.
Let me try to explain, how my life began post adoption. Imagine, you are eighteen years old, just out of high school, and you are living on your own, with no knowledge of the real world. You are so happy and excited about discovering your future. You plan to work hard, do well in life and visit your family for that Sunday dinner.
Then, out of nowhere, the real world enters your life for the first time, and you are presented with your first obstacle away from home. Well, my first obstacle came at me like a comet coming full speed and obliterating my entire family. This is how the real world welcomed me. You see, I have not had a relationship with my adoptive family for the past twenty plus years, and have been alone until the birth of my son.
So, when you consider adopting and/or fostering a child, ask yourself that obvious question. Why? - Do I really want to adopt/foster a child? Is it because you cannot conceive? Do you have a strong desire to be a parent. Are you trying to heal a troubled relationship? Or, do you simply enjoy children? The important thing to remember is that this child will have a lot of emotional issues and needs so you need to be patient and above all that child needs your support, FOREVER!!!
Let me try to explain, how my life began post adoption. Imagine, you are eighteen years old, just out of high school, and you are living on your own, with no knowledge of the real world. You are so happy and excited about discovering your future. You plan to work hard, do well in life and visit your family for that Sunday dinner.
Then, out of nowhere, the real world enters your life for the first time, and you are presented with your first obstacle away from home. Well, my first obstacle came at me like a comet coming full speed and obliterating my entire family. This is how the real world welcomed me. You see, I have not had a relationship with my adoptive family for the past twenty plus years, and have been alone until the birth of my son.
So, when you consider adopting and/or fostering a child, ask yourself that obvious question. Why? - Do I really want to adopt/foster a child? Is it because you cannot conceive? Do you have a strong desire to be a parent. Are you trying to heal a troubled relationship? Or, do you simply enjoy children? The important thing to remember is that this child will have a lot of emotional issues and needs so you need to be patient and above all that child needs your support, FOREVER!!!